What My Self-Awareness Journey Taught Me About Luxury

Ah, luxury. The word alone is like velvet for the ears, isn’t it? But if you think it’s all private jets and handbags that cost more than your first car, buckle up, darling. This journey is about the kind of luxury that starts within—where the real glow-up happens.

Spoiler alert: it's not about draining your savings for the newest "It" bag (unless that brings you true joy—we’ll get to that).

Here’s what my self-awareness journey taught me about true luxury, with practical wisdom you can use to elevate your life today.

Because luxury isn’t just for “Nepobabies”; it’s for the audaciously self-aware.

You want luxury? Start with valuing yourself like you’re Loro Piana in a world of fast fashion. For years, I thought luxury was something you had to earn. Turns out, it’s more about realizing you deserve beauty, joy, and peace simply because you exist. Revolutionary, right?

Actionable Step: Take yourself on a "luxury audit."

Ask: what in my life makes me feel like the main character, and what makes me feel like the unpaid extra? Ruthlessly cut the latter.

“Real luxury requires the genuine things and the true values: a man or a woman who is in harmony with their own individuality.” - Christian Dior

Listen, you can’t buy time, but you can stop squandering it. True luxury is the ability to say no to things that don’t light you up.

Before my self-awareness journey, I was a people-pleasing yes-machine.

Now, I decline invites with the grace of a diamond-encrusted guillotine.

Actionable Step: Audit your calendar.

If there’s something there that makes you groan, cancel it. Yes, even that baby shower. Especially that gender reveal baby shower.

Your space reflects your energy. If your bedroom looks like a storage unit had a meltdown, don’t expect to feel luxurious.

My journey taught me that creating an environment I love isn’t about expensive furniture; it’s about intentionality.

Actionable Step: Pick one corner of your home and make it luxurious today.

A scented candle, fresh flowers, or even just rearranging your books by color (yes, I’m that person). Small shifts, big vibes.

Let’s be honest, darling: true luxury is feeling utterly at home in your own skin. For me, this meant taking a hard look at the products I was slathering on my face and realizing my skincare routine deserved better than bargain-bin mediocrity.

Investing in high-quality skincare wasn’t just about vanity; it was a declaration—that I am worth formulas designed to nurture, not multitask as industrial cleaners.

This shift wasn’t about buying into trends but about curating rituals that made me feel radiant and confident every day.

Actionable Step: Upgrade one element of your self-care routine.

Not twenty things—just one. A silk pillowcase, a luxurious lotion, or even an absurdly indulgent bath bomb that smells like wealth and good decisions.

Lastly, and most importantly, luxury is a mindset. You can wear all the designer clothes in the world, but if you’re walking around with scarcity mentality, you’re just a well-dressed pessimist. I’ve learned to treat every day as an opportunity to experience beauty—from a perfect cappuccino to a rare moment of silence.

Actionable Step: Start a gratitude journal.

But here’s the twist: focus on luxurious things you’re grateful for. A gorgeous sunset, a well-crafted latte, that perfect shade of nail polish. Train your brain to notice the beauty.

This is the big one. The most luxurious thing I’ve learned is to stop apologizing for living the way I want. Whether that’s spending an entire Sunday in bed with a book or walking out of a job that didn’t align with my spirit, luxury is freedom.

Actionable Step: Do one thing today that aligns with your version of luxury.

Maybe that’s cooking yourself a meal worthy of Michelin stars or finally buying that lipstick you’ve been eyeing. Give yourself permission to indulge.

Luxury isn’t just a lifestyle; it’s an attitude. It’s about knowing your worth, curating your environment, and embracing every ounce of beauty life has to offer. Sure, a designer bag doesn’t hurt, but the real luxury is walking through life with the confidence that you’re worthy of all good things.

So light a candle, pour yourself a sparkling water with a twist of lime, and remember: luxury is as much about who you are as what you have.

Now, go be your fabulous, self-aware, audaciously luxurious self.

Cheers to living beautifully, darling.